Years ago I was working on my Master’s Degree. One of the classes I took had me read a book called “Reaching Out” by Henri Nouwen. Henri Nouwen was a Catholic priest and author. The thing I appreciated most about Mr. Nouwen was his ability to bring things to our attention and offer it in such a way it causes the reader to step back and look at themselves. In one portion of the book he began to talk about the topic of Hospitality. We all think of hospitality in regards to inviting someone to our home and entertaining them. It’s a choice we’ve made to allow someone we like to join us in our own personal and intimate setting. Mr. Nouwen presents the definition of hospitality like this. “Hospitality means primarily the creation of a free space where the stranger can enter and become a friend instead of an enemy [Notice he’s not classifying any specific type of person]. Hospitality is not to change people, but to offer them space where change can take place. It is not to bring men and women over to our side, but to offer freedom not disturbed by dividing lines. Hospitality is not a subtle invitation to adopt the life style of the host, but the gift of a chance for the guest to find his own. This space then becomes a place where people can disarm themselves, to lay aside their occupations and preoccupations and to listen with attention and care to the voice speaking to their own center via the work of the Holy Spirit.”
As humans, we like to choose who we’re going to interact with based off their physical appearance, personality, race, similar backgrounds or any other number of things. We give love but it tends to come with strings attached and given only to those we want to give it to. If someone continues to act or present themselves in a way that benefits us, we will continue an interaction with them. If it inconveniences us in some way, we choose to ignore or overlook that person from that point forward. Matthew 22 finds Jesus speaking to a group of people. When asked which is the greatest commandment verse 37 tells us, “Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ If we are truly loving God with all our heart, soul, and mind [basically our entire being], our love for others will pour out freely to ourselves and those around regardless of who they are. We will love them in spite of their past mistakes or their current situations.
Closing remarks and encouragement: The goal isn’t to walk into every situation with intentions of changing those around us. It’s about presenting ourselves as a safe place for others to experience the God in us and be led by the Holy Spirit to make a positive change for themselves. Love doesn’t require us to condone a lifestyle or the personal choices someone has made—but love isn’t condemning them either—that’s not our job. The Greek word used for neighbor (as Jesus used it in the above scripture) is defined as whomever we come in contact with. Lets just love our neighbor to the best of our ability and allow God to do the work on the inside.
I pray you have a blessed week!!