An excerpt from Shakespeare’s Sonnet 43….. “How do I love me……let me count the ways..” Okay, maybe that’s not EXACTLY what Shakespeare wrote but, well, I meant what I wrote. That must have been from Rhodes Sonnet 43. In my 35 (soon to be 36…insert eye roll here) years of life I don’t think I’ve found anyone I love much more than I love me, aside from my wife and kids. [I realize some of you think I’ve flipped my lid right now—stick with me] If given a choice to bless myself with a million dollars or someone else…..well…..let’s just say I’d have to pray about that one…and fast…..and pray a little more. Just a warning, it might not be my finest moment, LOL! Let’s be honest here!! Whether you want to admit it or not, you like yourself, some more than others. We may not like to voice it but sometimes we just want to be selfish and choose doing something for ‘numero uno’ rather than others. It’s natural. We were all born with that instinct and most of us fight the rest of our lives NOT to allow that monster to take center stage in our decision making process. Suffice it to say, you can look around and surmise who fights the monster and who doesn’t.
Hundreds of years ago we were given the Ten Commandments. For Christians, it is this list of commandments we must endeavor to abide by…..and even some of the stuff that’s written ‘in between the lines,’ I might add (that’s for another blog). When the commandments were given, God’s people finally had a concrete list of ways to pattern and live their lives. Then, Jesus came along and things got a lot more interesting. Jesus had been teaching and preaching for some time when many religious teachers began approaching him at different times to discredit his ministry. In one such interaction a teacher of the law approached Jesus and asked him which commandment was the most important. ***Wait! They’re ALL important! Don’t do it, Jesus, it’s a trick!!! Nope.** Jesus responds, “29 … “The most important is, ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” [Mark 12:29-31 ESV]
Wait a minute……there’s a list of importance?!? Yep. But Moses never mentioned that part!! It may seem crazy but if we can master these two commandments it would change the way we live. Think about it. Loving the Lord God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength is HUGE! If I love my wife like I should I’m not going to want to run around on her. I won’t choose to take care of myself while she has need of something. If I genuinely love my wife like I should I am going to WANT what’s best for her too. I won’t desire to bring shame, hurt, or pain to her life. If I GENUINELY love God like I should I’m not going to want to steal, kill, covet, be an adulterer, etc. When my priority becomes loving Him, I’ll abstain from the rest of those things that would bring Him shame out of love and respect for Him. If I genuinely love God I’m going to learn how to love myself better too because, hopefully, I’ll begin seeing myself as He sees me….and he must love me a whole lot because He refers to me as His “beloved.” I’m not going to let a number on a scale, past hurts, etc. rule my heart and mind and determine how much I will love me.
Here’s the kicker–How I love myself is how I’m SUPPOSED to love OTHERS. “…love your neighbor as yourself.” Let’s face it, sometimes it’s hard to love my neighbor, and I’m not talking about the folks living next door. Our neighbor = our fellow man. Sometimes my neighbor cuts me off in traffic while giving me a not-so-nice hand gesture. Sometimes my neighbor steals from me. Sometimes my neighbor does things I don’t agree with. You don’t have to condone their actions but loving and not loving them isn’t a choice if you’re a child of God. Nobody said loving our neighbor would be easy. BUT if we love God as we should the rest of those things will fall into place. You can choose not to kill, steal, covet, etc but those choices should be a byproduct of our relationship with God. You have a choice today. Will you follow and fulfill ALL of His commandments, especially the two most important ones, or will you making the fleshly choice of loving self in an unhealthy manner? To fulfill or not to fulfill…….that’s the question. What’s YOUR answer?